Rebuilding Trust After Trust Has Been Broken: Part 3

Rebuilding Trust after Trust has been Broken: Part 3

By Dr. Brian T. Hargis © 2017 All Rights Reserved, Guest Blogger, Asher Family Foundation


Rebuilding Trust after Trust has been Broken is a challenge that every marriage will face. It’s not fun and it’s often not easy, but it’s definitely necessary. What I find to be the largest factor in bringing back trust is to keep from repeating the offense. Whatever was done or said must be eliminated. Only then can the healing begin.

Cease from Erring
When trust has been broken, someone in the marriage did or said something to break the sacred bond of trust. The spouse that broke trust must cease and desist immediately. This can’t be anymore clearer—you must stop erring or you can never build trust.

Consider the following: If the problem has been identified, responsibility has been accepted, the issue has been resolved, forgiveness is in the process and trust is in the stages of rebuilding…. then you must not become a repeat offender. To err is detrimental to your marriage because it basically destroys any progress made.

Therefore, any repeat of the offense, may seal your marital fate because your spouse will not be able to forgive or forget easily, and you certainly can’t expect them to act as though there’s nothing wrong. It will be a traumatic wedge and a deep divide between you both.

The point is this: Once the issue has been identified and eliminated, don’t allow it back! Build your walls of resistance high with God’s help, resist the devil and the enemy will run! Seek Godly counseling and commit to rebuilding trust. By doing this, you will achieve victory!

“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.” James 4:7-8a



Dr. Brian T. Hargis
Guest Blogger


Brian Hargis serves as a Chaplain to the U.S. Army but his journey began in 1991 when he enlisted in the Army to jump from airplanes. After fulfilling his active-duty obligation, Brian transitioned to the Ohio Army National Guard and was assessed to become a Green Beret with 2nd Battalion, 19th Special Forces Group (Airborne)… read more

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